Retired life (1)

December 4th,2015
 My husband and I had retired 10 years ago ! We were government servants. As such, we rely on our pension allowance for our living today.  Many of my friends and former colleagues expected both of us to enjoy retired life in travelling around places in our homeland or abroad as my two dear daughters have their own married lives away from their hometown.As a matter of facts, we never traveled far from West Malaysia.

We have a difficult person to deal with in our retired live. He is our son,youngest in the family. In
his younger days in school, he never gave us peace of mind. He was not a naught person but lack of focus in doing things. Most of his classwork and homework were never completed.We placed him in Chinese primary school for 4 years and imagine this..every year he was moved from class A to F and the report card showed results in mostly in red ! We realized he was weak and disliked writing in chinese characters when all subjects were taught in Chinese !

So, we decided to transfer him to a national primary school to complete his last two years of  primary education. Because he only learn two languages ie Bahasa Malaysia and English. Though he was the same playful person with no focus, at least the year 6 results were above average. We ever suspected he was ADHD kid. The second psychiatrist tested him and said he should be AD.

Three years of secondary education was completed with  average result. By then we were retiring. We moved to his father's hometown in West Malaysia and let him continue upper secondary education there. We really had hard times and stressful mind  while taking care of him. He studied auto mobile in a college and managed to obtain certificates .Back in our hometown ,there was no college offering courses on Auto Mobile.

After working for a while in West Malaysia and the same time giving us more headache problems, he told us he wanted to move back to our hometown. We did not mind as we missed our own home over there. Many asked why both of us did not just leave him there to survive himself. We just did not have choice...to leave or not to leave him.

Now we have been back for nearly 5 years.He has not changed in attitude and character. He has no stable income and yet he is married with a 5 month old baby girl. We two old parents are to take care of her. I once went to a fortune teller who told me that I felt stressful with my son and later with my grandchild. (2 years ago then.) Guess I got to accept life as we go on....